so in today’s world, there are still “honour killings”. i’ve read about the abuse of women in my international policy book a while ago. but this story just blew my mind!!
*copied the story in case the link comes broken*
Another ‘honor’ victim: Daughter, raped by brothers, killed by mother
Soraya Sarhaddi Nelson
Knight Ridder Newspapers
Nov. 14, 2003 12:20 PM
ABU QASH, West Bank – Rofayda Qaoud – raped by her brothers and impregnated – refused to commit suicide, her mother recalls, even after she bought the unwed teenager a razor with which to slit her wrists. So Amira Abu Hanhan Qaoud says she did what she believes any good Palestinian parent would: restored her family’s “honor” through murder.
Armed with a plastic bag, razor and wooden stick, Qaoud entered her sleeping daughter’s room last Jan. 27. “Tonight you die, Rofayda,” she told the girl, before wrapping the bag tightly around her head. Next, Qaoud sliced Rofayda’s wrists, ignoring her muffled pleas of “No, mother, no!” After her daughter went limp, Qaoud struck her in the head with the stick.
Killing her sixth-born child took 20 minutes, Qaoud tells a visitor through a stream of tears and cigarettes that she smokes in rapid succession. “She killed me before I killed her,” says the 43-year-old mother of nine. “I had to protect my children. This is the only way I could protect my family’s honor.”
The guilty brothers are in jail.
Qaoud’s confessed crime, for which she must appear before a three-judge panel on Dec. 3, is one repeated almost weekly among Palestinians living in the West Bank, Gaza Strip and Israel. Female virtue and virginity define a family’s reputation in Arab cultures, so it’s women who are punished if that reputation is perceived as sullied.
Victims’ rights groups say the number of “honor crimes” appears to be climbing, but at the same time, getting little attention. Israelis and Palestinians are too busy with political and military issues to notice what they dismiss as domestic disputes, says Suad Abu-Dayyeh, who works for the Women’s Center for Legal Aid and Counseling in East Jerusalem.
Poverty and war have exacerbated the problem, says Nadera Shalhoub-Kevorkian, a social work and criminology professor at Hebrew University in Jerusalem and an expert on violence against women.
“Men do not have any power except over women,” she says.
Police in Israel investigated at least 18 honor killings in the past three years.
Palestinian police reported 31 cases in 2002 – up from five during the first half of 1999 – the last time such incidents were counted before the current Palestinian uprising began, according to the center’s study.
But the number of killings is likely higher, given that Palestinian police investigate only crimes that have been reported, said Yousef Tarifi, the Ramallah prosecutor assigned to Qaoud’s case. Shalhoub-Kevorkian says her past research showed the likely number to be 15 times higher than the number of reported cases.
Legal authority on the West Bank has been weakened by Israel’s military crackdown, and the growing influence of militant Islamic factions has led clans to dole out their own justice. “In this chaotic situation, every man who thinks he knows a little bit of the Quran thinks honor issues are supposed to be resolved by killing,” says Shalhoub-Kevorkian, who adds that leading Muslim clerics in Jerusalem and Jordan have denounced such killings.
Qaoud says her husband, Abdul Rahim, 52, told her the Quran forbade such killings. But neither his pleas nor those of Palestinian crisis counselors swayed her. “Why did she accept what happened to her?” Qaoud asks. “Even a wife can tell her husband ‘no.’ “
According to court records, Rofayda was raped by her brothers, Fahdi, 22, and Ali, 20, in a bedroom they shared in the family’s three-room house. On Nov. 26, 2002, doctors at a nearby hospital who were treating Rofayda for an injured leg discovered she was eight months pregnant.
Palestinian authorities whisked her off to a women’s shelter in Bethlehem, where she gave birth to a healthy boy on Dec. 23. He has since been adopted by another Palestinian family, court records show.
Rofayda, meanwhile, wanted to return to her parents in the Ramallah suburb of Abu Qash. Ramallah Gov. Mustafa Isa called a meeting with the family and village elders, demanding they pledge in writing not to harm the girl. “He asked me if everyone in the family and the village would promise not to bother this girl, but I told him I couldn’t give him a guarantee,” Abu Qash Mayor Faik Shalout says.
Rofayda returned home in late January without notifying the authorities.
The shame was unbearable, Qaoud said. Relatives and friends refused to speak to her family. Her elder daughters’ husbands wouldn’t allow them to visit because Rofayda had returned home.
On Jan. 27, Rofayda sent word that she was in danger to crisis counselors at Abu-Dayyeh’s center in East Jerusalem. They, in turn, called Palestinian police in Ramallah, who have jurisdiction over Abu Qash. The police said they couldn’t get to the Qaoud home because of Israeli checkpoints.
Qaoud, meanwhile, sent her husband, who suffers from heart disease, to a doctor in the nearby village of Bir Zeit. Her three youngest children went to a cousin’s house.
At 11:30 p.m. she killed Rofayda, court records show. Tarifi says he’s convinced Qaoud had an accomplice, but Qaoud insists she acted alone.
Qaoud turned herself in and, after four months in jail, was released pending the resolution of her case.
While honor killings committed in the heat of the moment – for example, by a husband who catches his wife in bed with another man – generally carry a six-month to one-year jail term, Qaoud will likely be sentenced to three to five years in prison, Tarifi says. The fact she is a mother who was trying to protect her family’s honor mitigates the crime of premeditated murder, which is punishable by death under Palestinian law, he adds.
The brothers are serving minimum 10-year sentences in a Palestinian jail in the West Bank city of Jericho for statutory rape of a relative, Tarifi says.
No trace of Rofayda or her brothers remains in the family home. Qaoud says she ripped up all of their photographs and burned their clothes. The bedroom in which she killed her daughter is now a storeroom.
Erasing the memories is harder, she admits. She eases her pain by doting on her three children still living at home, especially the youngest, Fatima, 9, whom she lavishes with kisses. The children say they’ve forgiven Qaoud and return her affection.
“My mother did this because she does not want us to be punished by people,” Fatima explains with a shy smile. Leaning into Qaoud’s arms, the little girl adds: “I love my mother much more now than before.”
12 thoughts on “honour killing”
It’s terrible that these things still happen, also I find it disturbing that sometimes stories like this, instead of people feelings orry for people of those countries who come to live here bacuse of such things, encourage people to feel even more racism and treat refugees in a bad way 😦
I live in a muslim country, so I’m surrounded by people with views like these. Most muslims usually choose the radical way out… just recently, theyve banned dogs completely in the city I live in cause dogs are supposedly against islam. The whole country’s thinking of following. So yep, that’s the muslim view: if it’s bad the religion, get rid of it.
though I might clear this up..that is simply –ignorant–. If you research more into honour killings you will see that they, just as female genital mutilation are a CULTURAL thing and have -nothing- to do with a certain religion,. In islam for example I know that this is not tolerated, it happens in -some- places in the world becuase of the cultural influence within their lands.
That is very sad though 😦
Actually, it’s more of a ‘doing it for the religion’. If you’ve visited muslim countries or talked to people who come from countries where the majority is muslim (which I assume you havent from your irgorant comments), theyre viewpoints are very radical. Males are curcumcised in the name of religion no matter what it says in the Quran. It doesn’t happen in some places either. Do a little more research and start travelling instead of visiting sites setup by little teenys who are so intriuged by a certain culture that they create websites finding excuses for its flaws. Try telling a devout muslim in a muslim country like indonesia for example that you think islam isnt a culture and see what happens to you. If youre lucky… you might get to crawl out of the country alive.
That is bad. I feel so bad for the people that have died because of this. This is just as bad a wife burning. I just can’t understand how a mother can kill er own child. No matter what, I just can’t see it.
Wow. This is just…… terrible. How the mother wasn’t in jail, and able to tell how she murdered, is just terrible.
she is being prosecuted. but since this kind of crime is “accepted” by the commons, it’s not likely she will stay in the jail for too long. read the other news article about honour killings.
You know the recent terrible killing in China? One man got arrested after he killed 60 or more people in two years. The other man was caught after he kiled 17 boys and wounded one.
yes i read about the serial killing case in some blogs. killing for personal gains or out of craziness happens everywhere in the world. but killing for viginity (esp. after raped by the brother).. that’s just too much…..
Ugh, the most disgusting things happen. So unfair and just pure insanity! Family killing each other and so on. If things has to end this way then screw the rules!
This is the sad story of may young and old women in the world that have been kill by such inconceiveable crime. Women over centuries and centuries have been oppressed by the Male ego that issued on the emotional ties of Pride And anger. I feel that men and some women think that women should live a life of servitude that only catters the mans needs and the children. Why is that some men think that women are thier to serve or are not on that same level or value as men? It really makes me wonder why? My heart goes out the the women that are victims of such crimes.
YEAH killing for honor is increased from several years,but for sure i want to tell u something
it is not about religion but about culture,in Islam for example no one can kill any one unless 4 trusted ppl said that they saw this girl or that man did a sinn,and there is rules to treat every single case
no one can take any one life that easy,about a man make love to his sister even not in Islam,it is not normal,so that woman fixed the sin with another sin,any how,, i know a true story about a christian girl who loved a Muslim man and converted to Islam to be with him but all her family fight her,and after a while governess took action and said that girl must not be with that Muslim man and take her convert to Islam as not allowed and they send the girl back to her family
in same night her dad came to her room find her reading Quran he beat her very hard with a big stick broken her head then threw her from the balcony to the street,she died,u wanna hear more stories about another christian girls?i got proves 2 if u need any records,all i say here stop accusing Islam for killing our own kids.READ ABOUT ISLAM AND QURAN RULES AND ORDERS BEFORE U POST NON SINCE,ALLAH BLESS ALL GOOD PPL